7 Transformational Tips for Successful and Loving Relationships
A French novelist, by the pen name of George Sand, once said that "There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved." I couldn't agree with her more! Every day, when I write in my journal and think about the happy moments of my day, it is either about being with someone I love or about spending uplifting time with friends and family. Whether you are aware of it or not, every person with a beating heart seeks to love and be loved. Connection is so vital for our happiness, support system and emotional wellbeing!
Always know that you are worthy and deserving of giving and receiving love. It is so important to realise that a truly loving relationship is with someone who has unconditional love for you, who brings out the very best in you, who has your back, is there to support you in the good times and the bad, who treats you like their best friend and most precious loved one and who shows you deep respect.
Every person in this world deserves to enjoy a deep and loving relationship. Yes, you read that right. You CAN and ARE worthy of having a successful and loving relationship with your partner, children, friends, AND in-laws! 😊
I am going to share with you these seven powerful tips on how to develop new relationships, and how to take your current ones to the next level.
1. Love yourself
If you have read my past blogs (read them here>>>) or have come across my posts on Instagram, you would know the transformational power of self-love and self-acceptance.
As they say, you cannot give what you do not have.
Self-love is a state of appreciation of oneself that grows from actions that support your physical, psychological, and spiritual growth. It means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others.
Self-love may sound selfish to others. In fact, what we are doing is ‘fitting our oxygen mask’. We can’t share love with others until we show love to ourselves. Building self-love means doing everything in your power to meet your heart's needs and desires. It is the first step to being truly happy.
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2. Be Open to Love
In my line of work, I have met a lot of people who tell me that no matter what they do, they cannot seem to find true long-lasting love. They jump from one relationship to the next and as a result, they are disheartened by the whole ‘being in love’ experience. Harbouring limiting beliefs about ourselves, and others will attract, like a magnet, negative experiences and people to us. Negative beliefs such as, “all of the good one’s are taken, no one is going to love me, all my relationships end in heartache, my partners always leave me…” create a negative expectation, and as we know, our beliefs and expectations create our reality.
Be open to looking through a new loving lens and forming NEW empowering beliefs such as, “my ideal partner is just around the corner, I am SO LOVEABLE anyone would be lucky to have me in their life, I learn and grow with every relationship, I’m ready to attract my perfect soul mate and enjoy every moment."
As Deepak Chopra says, "The less you open your heart to others, the more your heart suffers." So, keep your heart open for all the love that you can receive every day!
3. Visualize the perfect relationship
Have you ever heard how universal the Law of Attraction is? Most of the time, people use it to manifest wealth, fame, and abundance. It can also be applied to attract happiness, love, and successful relationships!
One of the easiest and most powerful techniques of the Law of Attraction is Creative Visualization. Tips to manifest a perfect relationship:
- Think of a picture of a relationship you dream of having. It can be an image of you and your partner holding hands, your children playing and having fun, or you and your mother-in-law talking and laughing over the phone.
- Make sure that your intentions are clear, positive and align with your values. The clearer we have our ideal scenario in our mind, the clearer it is for our subconscious to use as a blueprint.
- Amplify the vibration (the signals the Universe receives) by associating a strong and exciting emotion to your vision. Experience how uplifted, happy and passionate you and your partner feel in your vision.
- Repeatedly affirm your intention, if single - ‘I am attracting my ideal partner’, if in a relationship, ‘I am a loving partner in a beautiful & successful relationship’ etc. Do it every day. This rewires your subconscious mind, thereby, creating your vision into near reality.
- Ignore the destructive murmurs and address your limiting beliefs once they surface. Speak of your vision, feel it, and live it as if it is already happening.
Before you know it, the love that you've been searching for will be right before your very eyes.
4. Be the person you want to see in your relationship
The truth is, we can only control our actions and not that of others, instead of trying to change the person, why not be the change yourself? "Be the change you want to see in the world." Becoming the person, you ideally want your partner to be is the perfect way to set our vibration. As we know, I bang on about it all the time – ‘like attracts like’ 😊. When we think, act, and live with a loving, positive, warm, and happy attitude life just becomes even more delicious!
Validate the attributes of the person you want to be with. Emulate the characteristics you are searching for in a partner. The Law of Attraction will be at work here. Because like attracts like and love begets love, if your partner sees the fabulous changes in you, he or she will consciously or unconsciously make the effort to do the same. I love that quote that says, “if you want more love be more loving.”
If you display a particular set of behaviours, you will likely attract the persons with the same set of behaviours. Even parents who model characteristics to their children are subconsciously motivating their children to follow suit.
5. Accentuate the positive
Love is not blind. I agree with you there. In my practice, relationship issues surface after being together for some time. The person, you previously put on a pedestal, suddenly seems not fit to be there anymore. At this point, love may start to fade. I am here to tell you that this is preventable.
As above, I want you to think and feel positive. Not only for yourself but also for your partner. I am not telling you to ignore the flaws and disregard the faults. Be aware of them but choose to focus on the things that you like or love about them! Always put them in a good light. Consider it your strength to forgive their occasional weaknesses and outbursts, as they would, you.
Admire your partner. Admiration and respect form a strong foundation for any relationship. It is the story you tell yourself and others about your loved one. Every day, find something in them that makes you proud. Write it in your journal. Flaunt it to your friends. Your partner will live up to this identity.
My Gratitude & Success Journal's first chapter is about Love. It will guide you to tread your relationship paths more attentively. It offers questions and visualizations to help you attract more positivity in your relationships and other areas of your life.
6. Keep in mind that love is an action word
Whether you are in a new relationship or trying to reignite an old flame, know and remember that love is a verb, not a noun. You have to work on it to make it work.
Spending time, writing love letters, and holding hands may not be enough. We are fortunate to have Dr Gary Chapman and his awesome insights. In his revolutionary book, ‘The 5 Love Languages', he said that, just like the languages of the tongue, love, also has its languages and people speak different love languages. They give and receive love in different ways. He described the 5 Love Languages to give us a better way to understand and express ourselves to each other.
The 5 love languages are:
Words of Affirmation
In this language, words are used to affirm other people. Words of compliments or appreciation are supreme expressions of love.
Quality Time
Spending quality time or giving them undivided attention is how love is communicated in this language. It is not merely being with the other person in close proximity. Togetherness and giving one another focused attention make the love bloom.
Receiving Gifts
Getting something, they can hold in their hand is appreciated most by the speakers of this love language. It does not have to be big or expensive. As the adage says, "It's the thought that counts."
Acts of Service
Actions speak louder than words in this language. It means whole-heartedly doing things for your loved ones to serve them and lift a burden off their shoulders.
Physical Touch
Touch is probably the oldest means to express one's feelings. Holding, kissing, and hugging speak volumes in this language.
How does it work? How can we apply these to make our relationships better?
First, identify your love language. What makes you feel loved? Is it when you hold hands with your partner or when you go on intimate dates? Or when you frequently hear them profess their love for you?
Take the test here to be certain.
The one which gleaned the highest percentage is your primary (or "native tongue") love language. It means that you express your love for a person by this language, and you tend to expect them to do the same for you, not knowing that they have a different love language, all this time.
The good news is that, like spoken languages and dialects, we can learn a second language. We may not be easily adept with it, although through practice, we will have a way of comprehending and using it. Now, have your partner take the test. Learn how to speak their love language so you can better understand each other.
You will now be able to work smarter, not harder, to take your relationship to the next level. Look forward to illuminating outcomes just by learning about each other's love language!
7. Dream together
When you enter a relationship, there will always be three entities: you, your partner, and your relationship (the two of you, counted as one). You as a person have dreams of your own, and your partner, his or her own, as well. As another entity, fused into one, your relationship should also set its course and goals. It will help you take it to the next level.
Focusonthefamily.com enumerates the powerful effects of dreaming together as a couple.
It strengthens your commitment towards each other.
It nurtures your partnership and the way you work together.
It creates intimacy as you share your deepest passions.
It inspires romance. You get to see your partner as your hero.
It reawakens your passion and admiration for each other.
Visualize the perfect, best-case scenario for you and your partner, share your intentions, state and repeat your affirmations, and commit to achieving a rock-solid foundation for your loving relationships. Add new sparks and create magnetic energy to your relationship and its loving future.
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